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The Other Woman
(Thanks to Gloria G. for sending this one in!)
After 21 years of marriage, I discovered a new way of keeping
alive the spark of love. A little while ago I started to go out
with another woman. It was really my wife's idea.
"I know that you love her," she said one day, taking me by surprise.
"But I love YOU," I protested.
"I know, but you also love her."
The other woman that my wife wanted me to visit was my mother,
who has been a widow for 19 years. The demands of my work and
my three children had made it possible to visit her only occasionally.
That night I called to invite her to go out for dinner and a
movie.
"What's wrong, are you okay?" she asked. My mother is the type
of woman who suspects that a late night call or a surprise invitation
is a sign of bad news.
"I thought that it would be nice to spend some time with you,"
I responded.
"Just the two of us ?" She thought about it for a moment, then
said, "I would like that very much."
That Friday after work, as I drove over to pick her up, I was
a bit nervous. When I arrived at her house, I noticed that she,
too, seemed to be nervous about our "date."
She waited in the door with her coat on. She had curled her hair
and was wearing the dress that she had worn to celebrate her last
wedding anniversary. She smiled from a face that was as radiant
as an angel's.
"I told my friends that I was going to go out with my son and
they were impressed," she said, as she got into the car. "They
can't wait to hear about our meeting."
We went to a restaurant that, although not elegant, was very
nice and cozy. My mother took my arm as if she were the First
Lady. After we sat down, I had to read the menu. Her eyes could
only read large print.
Half way through the entrees, I lifted my eyes and saw Mom sitting
there staring at me. A nostalgic smile was on her lips. "It was
I who used to have to read the menu when you were small," she
said.
"Then it's time that you relax and let me return the favor,"
I responded.
During dinner we had an agreeable conversation - nothing extraordinary
- but catching up on recent events of each other's life. We talked
so much that we missed the movie.
As we arrived at her house later, she said, "I'll go out with
you again, but only if you let me invite you." I agreed.
"How was your dinner date?" asked my wife when I got home.
"Very nice. Much more so than I could have imagined," I answered.
A few days later my mother died of a massive heart attack. It
happened so suddenly that I didn't have a chance to do anything
for her.
Some time later I received an envelope with a copy of a restaurant
receipt from the same place my mother and I had dined. An attached
note read: "Son, I paid this bill in advance. I was almost sure
that I couldn't be there but, nevertheless, I paid for two plates
- one for you and the other for your wife. You will never know
what that night meant for me. I love you."
At that moment I understood the importance of saying, in time,
"I LOVE YOU" and to give our loved ones the time that they deserve.
Nothing in life is more important than your family. Give them
the time they deserve, because these things cannot be put off
till "some other time."
Somebody said it takes about six weeks to get back to normal
after you've had a baby ...somebody doesn't know that once you're
a mother, "normal" is history.
Somebody said you learn how to be a mother by instinct ...somebody
never took a three-year-old shopping.
Somebody said being a mother is boring ...somebody never rode
in a car driven by a teenager with a driver's permit.
Somebody said if you're a "good" mother, your child will "turn
out good" ...somebody thinks a child comes with directions and
a guarantee.
Somebody said "good" mothers never raise their voices ...somebody
never came out the back door just in time to see her child hit
a golf ball through the neighbor's kitchen window.
Somebody said you don't need an education to be a mother ...somebody
never helped a fourth grader with his math.
Somebody said you can't love the fifth child as much as you
love the first ...somebody doesn't have five children.
Somebody said a mother can find all the answers to her child-rearing
questions in the books ...somebody never had a child stuff beans
up his nose or in his ears.
Somebody said the hardest part of being a mother is labor and
delivery ...somebody never watched her "baby" get on the bus for
the first day of kindergarten ...or on a plane headed for military
boot camp.
Somebody said a mother can do her job with her eyes closed and
one hand tied behind her back ...somebody never organized seven
giggling Brownies to sell cookies.
Somebody said a mother can stop worrying after her child gets
married ...somebody doesn't know that marriage adds a new son
or daughter-in-law to a mother's heartstrings.
Somebody said a mother's job is done when her last child leaves
home ...somebody never had grandchildren.
Somebody said your mother knows you love her, so you don't need
to tell her ...somebody isn't a mother.
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